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When we are going through difficult times in our lives, the need for a community of support is crucial to our recovery. If you or a loved-on has been affected by the criminal justice system or has been placed on the sex offender registry, there is a new online support forum available.

I wanted to create a new forum because the support for registrants and families is lacking. Living on the registry is hard. And what may be worse is witnessing a loved-one being ostracized, harassed, or is just having a hard time finding work or a place to live.

PODCAST TRANSCRIPT

It’s The Outspoken Offender Podcast. …


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Writing an accountability letter is a positive step in better understanding the harm that has been caused. It also helps in taking responsibility and building empathy for your victim(s). By writing this letter, you’re taking a positive step towards healing.

This video offers tips and suggestions on how to write a letter that expresses true accountability without asking for forgiveness.

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All right, happy to see you here, again. My name is The Outspoken Offender.

And today is a little different type of video. I’m talking about something fairly difficult to do for the former offender. This is called the offender accountability letter and I do want to point out though. If you’re watching this video, this can be used for anybody, for any type of crime, or any type of situation where you want to feel what the other person may be feeling. So it doesn’t have to be a sex offense, but it is geared towards that a little bit. The information that I’m going to be showing you here in a minute. I actually found from I think it was Montana Department of Corrections and their sex offender counseling unit or whatever. So it does help. I actually wrote an accountability letter when I was in counseling years ago, and it did help me see a clearer picture of the things that I did and how I affected lives negatively. …


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March 3rd, 2006 was the worst day of my life. I was arrested for a sexually-based offense. It’s a day I’ll never forget, and always regret. In this brief video I discuss my crime along with case law (Dost Test, Miller Test) that defines child pornography. I also answer these questions:

  1. Does nudity need to exist to meet the definition of child pornography?
  2. 2. If I illustrate (paint, sketch, etc) an underage, fictional character in a sexual situation, can I get arrested?

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I get some people emailing me from time to time asking what did I do to get on the sex offender registry? Well, I want to talk about my story today. I do mention it a little bit on my blog, on my website, theoutspokenoffender.com. But I want to get more involved here with this video because I don’t want the same mistake to happen to you or your loved one. …


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Is Your Neighborhood Safe From Child Predators? With the sex offender registry in full force in the United States, communities should be safer nowadays. But as I show in this video, that may not be the case. With statistics and a “silly” Photoshop illustration, I’ll show that the registry may be making things worse for children and families.

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Is your child safe in your neighborhood? Let’s talk about the sex offender registry here and the effectiveness of it when it comes to children’s safety. I’m going to do a little bit of a kind of an illustration here and I chose a city, a neighborhood actually. I lived in this city years ago. It’s a cool little place. It’s nice safe middle to upper-class. Sandy, Utah. …


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Is it okay to automatically hate sex offenders? I took this question to Quora and received three interesting responses. I’ll discuss these answers and briefly discuss the different types of sexual offenders. In addition, let’s also talk about the rationale behind the “same offense: very different offenders” argument.

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Well, thanks for joining me. I’m The Outspoken Offender back in the studio
because it’s just been too damn wet outside where I live. So I’m happy to be inside. I hope your year is going well so far. It’s been a rough Wednesday. You heard I’m sure about the capital that’s another topic of conversation. What I wanted to discuss today is I’m sure you see the title on the YouTube or wherever you’re watching this video. Is is it okay to automatically hate sex offenders? And I put out a question on Quora as I think that’s how you pronounce it Quora. …


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What does it take to shed the sex offender or ex-felon label? Is it possible if we take full responsibility for our past actions?

I briefly discuss this topic while highlighting Justin Vargas, a Phoenix teen basketball scout. Justin lives as a registered sex offender but has proven himself over and over in his community. What do parents think of him working with teen boys? Does he get backlash from the community? I offer a few pointers for people wanting to move past the stigma in this commentary video.

I’d love to hear your comments about this topic that should be discussed more often. …


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Can you shed the sex offender stigma or label? Yes. In fact, one man is doing it.

In this episode, I briefly discuss the story of Justin Vargas, a teen basketball scout in Phoenix, Arizona. Vargas was convicted of sexual contact with a 15-year-old girl when he was 23, and which requires him to register as a sex offender. For the last three years, he’s been a scout and performs a very important role for teen basketball players. Vargas continues to prove himself over and over, but fear and hate persist from parents and the community.

So is it possible to shed the sex offender label? In this important podcast episode, I talk about shedding the label for yourself, rather than people that don’t know you. Take accountability. Take responsibility. Do good things. These are all important steps in shedding the sex offender label. …


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Haters are everywhere…online and off. So how do we deal with people that look down on us? I give several tips on how to effectively manage people who criticize, denounce, and spread hate on social media and in the real world.

Podcast Transcription

It’s The Outspoken Offender Podcast.

[00:00:11] My hope is to encourage registered citizens, former inmates in anyone facing stereotypes and social ostracism. To move beyond society’s labels. Welcome to the show. Thanks for joining me on this episode of The Outspoken Offender. And I hope your day is going well for you.

[00:00:34] You know, in today’s age, hate is rampant. It is especially noticeable on social media. The comments, the replies on social media can be cruel. Children are affected by it. Adults are affected by it, and it’s something that I’ve been thinking about lately, especially on my channel, The Outspoken Offender. So how can we deal with haters or people that just criticize us online and offline? …


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Sex Offender Registry Myths and Facts

There are countless myths that circulate online about the sex offender registry and the almost 1 million people that are forced to be on the “list.”

Let’s take a few moments and discuss a few of these misconceptions about a class of people that are often misunderstood. I follow up with real, accurate statistics while debunking falsehoods and rumors about people on the registry.

Video Transcript

“As you know, I’m a register in time on the sex offender registry from a horrible mistake that I made about 14 years ago.

Oh, wait a minute. Hold on a second. If I’m on the registry, then this doesn’t look right. I mean I’m out here in the forest. Let me change let me change something for a sec. Maybe this will look better to you. Let me get over here and show you what I’m talking about. Okay, there we go. I’m in the bushes. Let’s flip this around again peering through the bushes. I am on the registry now. I mean the point I’m trying to make here is I’m not trying to make light of it or a joke… okay. I’m just trying to point out that there’s a lot of misconceptions about people on the registry. Everybody on the registry is a pedophile …everybody on the registry molests children. Sure. There is a small percentage but the majority no, and so today on my latest video here. …


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Once you identify yourself with a particular group of people — whether it’s social, political, or religious — then you often begin to define the rest of your existence based on this label. Don’t let what people label you, define you. Just because someone calls you a word doesn’t mean that is what you are required to be. “My hope is to encourage registered citizens, former inmates, and anyone facing stereotypes and social ostracism to move beyond society’s labels.” — The Outspoken Offender.

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The Outspoken Offender

Helping registered citizens and former inmates move beyond stereotypes and social ostracism.

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